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Perfectionism is Addictive & Self-destructive

Self compassion

Take this survey and rate how much self-compassion you have.  Psst…..perfectionists are usually brutally low on self-compassion.

The following survey is taken from Dr. Kristin Neff, the foremost researcher on self-compassion.  Her research has shown how closely related perfectionism is to a lack of self-compassion.

Take her short survey and find out how self-compassionate you are.


Please read each statement carefully before answering. To the left of each item, indicate how often you behave in the stated manner, using the following scale:

Almost Never                                                            Almost  Always

1                       2                      3                     4                      5

_____1. When I fail at something important to me I become consumed by feelings of inadequacy.

_____2. I try to be understanding and patient towards those aspects of my personality I don’t like.

_____3. When something painful happens I try to take a balanced view of the situation.

_____4. When I’m feeling down, I tend to feel like most other people are probably happier than I am.

_____5. I try to see my failings as part of the human condition.

_____6. When I’m going through a very hard time, I give myself the caring and tenderness I need.

_____7. When something upsets me I try to keep my emotions in balance.

_____8. When I fail at something that’s important to me, I tend to feel alone in my failure

_____9. When I’m feeling down I tend to obsess and fixate on everything that’s wrong.

_____10. When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind myself that feelings of inadequacy are shared by most people.

_____11. I’m disapproving and judgmental about my own flaws and inadequacies.

_____12. I’m intolerant and impatient towards those aspects of my personality I don’t like.

If you find yourself with low scores, check out Dr. Neff’s website for tips on how to increase your self-compassion.

 Reference: Raes, F., Pommier, E., Neff,K. D., & Van Gucht, D. (2011). Construction and factorial validation of a short form of the Self-Compassion Scale. Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy. 18, 250-255.