What excuses do you use for not achieving success? What lies do you tell yourself about why you didn’t achieve greatness?
We often attribute our failure to achieve success to external forces. It’s our lack of money, time or resources. We blame our spouses, partners, children and friends. But more often than not, failure is attributable to what Steven Pressfield in his brilliant book War of Art calls resistance.
Resistance is basically procrastination. You’re resisting what you need to do.
You need to stop doing the important things some of the time, and start working on the important tasks ALL OF THE TIME.
“Resistance is not a peripheral opponent. Resistance arises from within. It is self-generated and self-perpetuated. Resistance is the enemy within” (War of Art, page 8).
I was supposed to start cold calling for my business, to generate interest in my talks & workshops and my upcoming book (Hey Ladies! Stop Apologizing and other career mistakes women make). But I haven’t made any cold calls.
My house is under construction now for some renovations and the place is messy and disorganized with painters and builders all over. So, I lie to myself and pretend that no one could work in such anti-feng shui conditions. I actually convince myself that no creativity could transpire among the beige walls and dusty floors….That’s resistance. It’s not the painters. It’s not the contractors in my house that are preventing me from succeeding in my business.
The hurdles lie within. The lies I tell myself are insidious because time is what it feeds off of, and time is what I keep friggin’ feeding it. Time to over-think, time to ruminate. Time to reflect when I should be taking action.
“Resistance will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. It will perjure, fabricate, falsify; seduce, bully, cajole. Resistance is protean. It will assume any form, if that’s what it takes to deceive you. IT will reason with you like a lawyer or jam a nine-millimetre in your face like a stickup man. Resistance has no conscience. IT will pledge anything to get a deal, then double-cross you as soon as your back is turned. IF you take Resistance at its word, you deserve everything you get. Resistance is always lying and always full of shit.” (War of Art, page 9).
So, what lies do you tell yourself?