Does any of this sound familiar to you?
- I can’t believe I got into university/graduate school/med school/law school/etc…..
- I can’t believe they actually hired me/promoted me/made me manager
- I can’t believe I’m here because I don’t know what I’m doing.
- I can’t believe they asked me to talk, I don’t know anything.
- Someone is going to find out I shouldn’t be here and I’ll get kicked out.
We usually talk ourselves out of taking a risk because we’re scared and our self-doubt rages! We feel like we don’t have enough or know enough. Even the most successful women suffer from the fraud or imposter syndrome.
Some of these excuses stem from thinking that we’re not good enough/smart enough/rich enough/have enough experience or it’s not the right time….
Self-doubt will always be there. It’s part of life and it’s part of the process of pushing and living outside of your comfort zone.
A little self-doubt & fear is good, because it forces you OUT of your comfort zone.
Not having any self-doubt or fear means you’re living in the comfort zone, you’re living in the status-quo.
Women are plagued by this fraud syndrome.
- You must learn to FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. You must project confidence all the time, until it becomes natural for you.
- Practice, practice, practice. Never stop learning. Never stop acquiring new skills. Most importantly of all, practice your public speaking & communication skills. Join a social club or debate team. Take every opportunity to speak in public.
- Develop a script. What’s your elevator pitch sound like? Can you sum up your brand, or thesis or your grand idea in 30 seconds or less? Develop a 30 second, 2 minute and 5 minute pitch. Then say it aloud to a group of people and get some feedback.
Fear and doubt never go away, so you must learn to manage them, dominate them when they rise up because they’ll always be there. We just need to learn to not let them run our lives.